We nipped out to our sign language class tonight leaving our foster-kid at home, left to his own devices. We're off to Birmingham for the weekend and he doesn't want to come with us as his brothers are going to be up from Brighton and he wants to see them.
Do we mind? Nope, not at all. It's actually quite pleasing. It gives us a weekend off from him and one less thing to worry about.
But...
While we were out his mother rang him to find out what time he was going over. He told her he didn't know because he won't be with us so he has to rely on his social worker booking transport.
Well it transpires this is not good enough for her. His sister has said she doesn't want him at her house.
Essentially it turns out that they don't want him seeing his brothers. R isn't the easiest of kids to deal with and at 16 he thinks he knows it all. Add to this the fact he thinks the world owes him something as he's in care and you end up with one royal pain in the backside... sometimes! To be honest some of it is partly his own fault. But... I'm in the mood to drive round to his mothers and his sisters and tell them exactly what I think of the low-life evil witch! How can any mother stop one of her own children from seeing his own brothers. He's 16 for fucks sake, he can make his own mind up but she won't let him. What annoys me even more is that if I speak to her to find out what's going on in support of R and she says "No, I don't want him going" then I have no choice but to support her and try and stop him from going.
We've been totally honest with him and said that we actually support him in this but cannot get involved too much because we might have to stop support and thankfully he's intelligent enough to understand where we're coming from but it's fucking frustrating!
So then plan... I think he's going to go over anyway and do his utmost to see them but just in case he doesn't I'm going to plan a little trip.
See, my brother lives in Kent, he used to live in Surrey, and I haven't seen him for a while, so we're going to take a trip... and take R with us... via Brighton... but obviously we won't be able to stay in Brighton very long... maybe long enough for one person to get out the car... then we'll have to get off to see my brother... of course coming back the only way from Kent to Wales is via Brighton... but sadly we won't have enough time to stop... maybe just enough time for someone to get in the car... and then head back to Wales. So, as you can see, it's just a nice trip to see my brother... no harm in that is there?